THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I love your site! It’s my guilty pleasure. I’m here to say something about women in the sex industry and about myself. I, like most strippers, pornstars and escorts had a hard life from the get go. Abusive parents, sexual abuse as a child, pregnancy, etc. I was a high school drop out. When I was younger, I was a total “good girl” despite having terrible parents. I didn’t even kiss a boy until i was 17 because i was shy and was a devoted catholic. When I was 20, my long term boyfriend left when i got pregnant and I became a welfare mom with a minimum wage job. Tired of living so limited and wanting more for my chid, I started going to college but I had no family support and not funds so I turned to escorting. I had considered porn but for the sake of my baby, i didn’t want my face out there. It was tough, painful. Sometimes the money was GREAT. The trips, the gifts, my new apartment. But sometimes i got ripped off, beat and raped. I spiralled downwards with drugs and alcohol. I had legal problems and I lost my child. I failed in school too… I was lonely and depressed. When I was finally fed up of it and tried getting normal job but again, i struggled and fell into dancing (stripping). The money was supposed to be amazing but let me tell you and everyone that at least here in LA, stripping money is bad and most girls have a day job or escort on the side or have a sugar daddy. I got tired of it too. By this point, I’m in a stable loving relationship with a decent guy who isn’t a sugar daddy, who is helping find a better job than i have now, who accepts me the way I am and we are engaged. My baby is with me (now older) and things are slowly getting better. Please girls, I’m not telling you to go all jesus-freak but I will tell you that selling your body is not the only way out. Work hard, find a real team partner a decent man who won’t hurt you, etc. Lay off the substances, they are an escape but they won’t lead you anywhere. Nik, I had to vent because I’m still struggling to adapt to the real world. I’m trying hard to make it all work and keep it all together. I’m hoping this post is read by the girls who think being a portapotty is so glam or being a pornstar is so cool. It’s not. By your mid 30′s you are not youthful enough to continue and you have nothing to show for all those years of whoring. No job, no real skills and not even a man to love you. Get out of it while you can or just do it while you are actually building a real career on the side although its nearly impossible because most sex industry girls are constantly fucked up on something and keep making bad decisions. Wish you all the best.
Well said.- nik