THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, my husband and I have been together for 8 years and we have 2 beautiful little girls. Both of us are pretty busy and we rarely find time to have sex, he pretty much asks for it every night but I usually decline him because I’m just tired. 3 weeks ago when he came home late, I went through his phone and found these pictures of a girl he was texting and found out he was just with her at dinner and had sex together at a hotel. When I spoke with him in the morning, he admitted to cheating on me but have some very good reasons why. His main one was that I’m not having sex with him and haven’t even gave him a blow job over 2 years and second one is that I let my body go after the pregnancies and he is right. So when this younger girl approached him from his work, he basically broke down and said they had an incredible night of nothing but sex and passion. Yes, it hurt to hear him say that, but its for the best. I’m 40 pounds heavier than I was before my children and haven’t even tried to lose the weight, this whole time my husband has been the best ever. He does everything for our family and even though I decline him for sex nightly, he is never rude or mean about it, but always tells me that he understands I’m tired and not in the mood… so how can I blame the perfect husband for cheating on me? I’m the one not satisfying his needs, while he satisfies all mine. I can’t be mad at him, I can only respect him for being honest and I feel that this will only make our bond even stronger. Many of my friends think I’m insane for agreeing that he had a great reason to cheat but I have to admit, if I was in his shoes, I would have done the same thing.
You sound like an amazing wife.- nik