THE DIRTY ARMY: Nik, I need your advice. My daughter is 20 and she has been sucked into the modeling scene like a pack of coyotes looking to recruit a new member. It’s everywhere you turn on Facebook; and I can’t seem to avoid it. However, there is a bit of a difference between her and these aspiring “Facebook models”. My daughter has done beauty pageants her whole life, even won several. She’s natural. As much as I don’t want her to become one of these gals on Facebook with thousands of perverts, I live to make my daughter happy. She recently came to me and asked to attend a bikini model search in Cancun. She entered a contest that was built around likes comments and shares but lost, due to the fact that the girl she was up against apparently purchased likes & comments (I didn’t know you could do such a thing). I felt bad about the cheating going on and so I went ahead and booked my daughter the trip to Cancun. All in all I spent $1400 on the event, and $600 on flights. To top it off, I gave her $500 to spend on whatever she wants. Total, $2500. Now, normally I would ask you if I am a bad mother for doing this, but here is where my fire burns. You see, after booking this event for my daughter, I saw more girls losing in this “contest” because of what my daughter claims to be girls buying them. This one girl in particular; her name is Ashley Salazar, lost to another model and the very next day I saw that she was attending the event. My daughter messaged her asking for modeling advice and this girl told her that she will never get anywhere in modeling, to stop trying, unless she shoots with her (Ashley) and her connections. Now I have learned that this Ashley is also a photographer. As time progressed, I learned from my daughter and other parents I speak to online that dearest Ashley cried to the owners of this bikini model search and ended up getting to go to this event FOR FREE!! As time progressed more, I learned her husband is also going FOR FREE, because Ashley is apparently some celebrity that I was unaware of. After searching the Internet to learn about who she was I found out on your site that she lost custody of her daughter – over modeling – and that she has told off many girls and is extremely competitive. My blood boils not because my daughter wants to pursue her dream, but because I just shelled out $2500 to pay for this trip and this rude girl and her husband gets to go for FREE. So now I will ask you: Nik, am I a bad mother for doing this and getting screwed?
You are a bad mother because you are letting your daughter go to Cancun. Free or not, there is no modeling in Cancun. It’s just girls getting naked.- nik